This morning I had an email from someone I used to work with years ago, suggesting all of us who used to work together meet up for reunion lunch. So far, so good.
Trouble is, everyone else who'd be going has young children, ranging from very small to just-started-school. I really, honestly have nothing against kids. Individually they're very nice. But last time we all went out together, there were so many children that it was impossible to hold a coversation with anyone, and in the rare interludes when my former colleagues weren't tending to their offspring, all they had to talk about was... their offspring. It was chaotic, noisy and kind of negated the point of going out to catch up on each others' news. And what made things worse was one of the women, who I never really got on with anyway, had a go at the restaurant staff for not serving our group first just because we had children with us!So to be honest I really don't want to go.
The organiser wants to know the dates I can make in the next few weeks, so I can't just say, sorry busy that day. I feel if I suggest we go out for dinner, sans kids, they'll think I don't like their children. And if I just reply saying sorry I just don't want to go, they'll think I don't like anyone. But I really don't want to waste time and money on an outing I won't enjoy.